Forever Parents

A local magazine, Family Times, interviewed me last September about older child adoption. One of the many issues I spoke about was when people tell my children that they “have a new life now”.

I disagree.

It’s still the same life, just a new chapter in it.
What happened in their earlier years are part of who they are today, not just in some other life.
We don’t try to make it pretty.
We don’t minimize or maximize it.
We don’t dwell on it and we don’t shove it in a box and hide it.
It is what it is.

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When my three children were in foster care (’99-’03), there were two other foster children living in the home with them. One of them was a boy a year older than my youngest. We remain friendly with their former foster parents and still see them a couple of times a year. About six months after we finalized their adoption, Pat (their former foster mother) called me to say that the other boy was starting placement with a couple that lived near us.

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On our adoption forums, a member asked this question:

For all of you who have adopted internationally, what have your experiences been? What should we be looking out for and asking agencies?

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Are you on Twitter? If you’re a parent through adoption, take a look at my Adoption list on Twitter. You can subscribe to the list without having to follow any of the accounts. After you subscribe, you’ll see it in your lists section. Clicking on it will show you all the recent tweets from those accounts.

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Adopt US Kids sponsored a wonderful series of adoption videos. Through humor, they show that you don’t have to be perfect to adopt a child that needs a family.

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Adopting a child of a race different than your own is not something everybody is comfortable doing. Two of my three children are biracial (black/white) and my husband and I are white. My third child is white, although she is biologically related to her siblings.

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