When my three children were in foster care (’99-’03), there were two other foster children living in the home with them. One of them was a boy a year older than my youngest. We remain friendly with their former foster parents and still see them a couple of times a year. About six months after we finalized their adoption, Pat (their former foster mother) called me to say that the other boy was starting placement with a couple that lived near us.
In 2002, I began to chronicle my adoption journey by creating Forever Parents, a supportive online community for adoptive and waiting parents. Over the next year, we grew our support forums to include an adoption shop and a collaborative blog. Forever Parents stayed active for over ten years, helping thousands of people during that time. Currently, I'm in the process of updating and moving all the blog posts here where they will be housed under the Forever Parents category.
On our adoption forums, a member asked this question:
For all of you who have adopted internationally, what have your experiences been? What should we be looking out for and asking agencies?
Are you on Twitter? If you’re a parent through adoption, take a look at my Adoption list on Twitter. You can subscribe to the list without having to follow any of the accounts. After you subscribe, you’ll see it in your lists section. Clicking on it will show you all the recent tweets from those accounts.
Adopt US Kids sponsored a wonderful series of adoption videos. Through humor, they show that you don’t have to be perfect to adopt a child that needs a family.
Adopting a child of a race different than your own is not something everybody is comfortable doing. Two of my three children are biracial (black/white) and my husband and I are white. My third child is white, although she is biologically related to her siblings.
Maybe it’s because my own children came to us at an older age, or maybe because my husband & I have different color skin than two of our children, but adoption is a topic we discuss openly and freely. It comes up in natural, conversations that we have with each other and other people. It’s something that is part of our life and “just is”, know what I mean?