Are you looking for ways to celebrate or acknowledge the anniversary of your finalization day? There are lots of possibilities, from ways to give back to activities that strengthen your family bond.
1: Lighting candles to honor those who made the adoption possible.
2: Family activities such as a picnic or a day at an amusement park.
3: Purchasing a gift that represents the child’s birth heritage such as the country they were born in.
4: Display or fly the flag of the child’s birth country in the front yard.
5: Reviewing a child’s life book, and perhaps adding a page to represent the past year
6: Preparing a presentation for your child’s classroom, homeschool group or scouting troop about adoption and how all families are different.
7: Remembering children still in foster care or orphanages by volunteering or sending a care package.
8: Writing in a family journal.
9: Take a professional family picture.
10: Helping your child to write or draw something about their life, their adoption, or their past.
11: Reading a book about families and/or adoption.
12: Buying a book about adoption and donate it to your child’s school library or public library.
13: Create something to remember each anniversary.
Ideas from our adoption forum members:
** My daughter and I celebrate finalization day. She has no siblings, but I think we still would with each sibling. I take her to lunch and buy her a present.
** We don’t celebrate but we do talk about it on that day. We let him know that is the day we became a family. We tell him it was the happiest day of our lives and one we will never forget. We remind him what country he is from, and that he had to fly on an airplane to come home to us.
** We celebrate our “Family Day” on the anniversary of our daughter’s finalization. That was an important day not just for her, but for our entire family. In the words of my husband, it was the day the wagons were circled. So we’ve celebrated it now for the last few years by going to our county fair, eating too much junk food, riding crazy rides and just enjoying each others’ company. I love it. It’s like celebrating our wedding anniversary…it’s not the day our family was born, but it was the day our family was COMPLETE.
** We went on vacation for the first anniversary. It was so much fun. We do something different every year.
In 2002, I began to chronicle my adoption journey and created Forever Parents, a supportive online community for adoptive and waiting parents. Over the next year, we grew our support forums to include an adoption shop and a blog. Forever Parents stayed active, helping thousands of people for over ten years. I’m in the process of updating and moving all the posts to this blog, in the Forever Parents section. This post was originally published on April 7, 2008.