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Staying Positive When Negative Things Happen

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Sometimes it’s difficult staying positive when negative things happen. Several shitty things happened this past week. My middle child (she’s almost 19) is getting herself into a very dangerous situation and refuses to talk to us. A friend of my husband’s passed away. He was in his 40’s and died of cancer. A friend is having legal troubles and fighting serious accusations made by someone who stabbed me in the back last year. I had an argument with my husband and he said some things that really hurt my feelings.

Similar situations happen to every person at some point throughout their lives. What sets us apart from the next person, is how we handle them. Here’s what I try to do when negative things happen in my life.

First, I allow myself to feel the pain or sadness of the situation. I don’t try to push it away or not think about it. This usually makes it worse. I do tend to over-analyze things so I have to be careful not to cross that line. Sometimes I’m successful at it, sometimes I’m not.

“Rather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about taking a good look.”
― Pema Chödrön

When I’ve had enough of feeling the pain or sadness of the situation, I force myself to think about happy things even though at times it’s very hard for me to turn my thoughts around due to my over-analyzing things. When that happens I visualize my mind as a cassette player and I change the tape. I don’t know why I visualize a cassette player, I haven’t used a cassette in years, but that what works for me.

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
– Dr. Wayne W Dyer

I’ve been working on letting go and trusting the process. It’s not easy for someone like me who constantly thinks about what’s going on. It’s very hard to turn my mind off but when I change the cassette tape, I remind myself of all the good things in my life; my good health, my loyal and loving pets, my husband of almost 20 years, my 15 year old daughter who is my rainbow.

Several years ago, someone posted something in an unschooling group that always stayed with me. When you catch yourself saying “I’m having a bad day”, stop and say “I’m having a bad moment”. Don’t condemn the whole day to being bad. That thought process has helped me through many situations.

I want to end with something my mother always said. I didn’t understand it when I was younger, but I do now.

This too shall pass.

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Joanne Greco is a wife, mom to five and pet mama to four cats + a 24-year-old iguana. On her family lifestyle blog, Life With Joanne she writes about Florida living, adoption, unschooling and more.

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  1. Elizabeth Towns says

    June 9, 2014 at 12:18 am

    This was a timely post for me. I was dealing with this very thing today and decided to take the lesson from the situation and let it be what it will be. I just don’t have the energy to be angry at people, so I need to find out what I should learn and move on.

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  2. Bella Vida Letty says

    May 31, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    I’m so sorry you are stressed at the moment. I hope you can find some me time to recharge this weekend. Sending you my best wishes.

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  3. Beeb Ashcroft says

    May 23, 2014 at 5:47 pm

    Hugs and I hope the weekend is better than this week!!
    Like you, I cope with things by over-thinking, over-analyzing, and ruminating to the max, so I relate to what you’re saying. It’s hard to change your thinking but I’m working on it slowly, too. I like the cassette tape analogy!

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  4. Jen V says

    May 22, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    My grandmother says that to me all the time! Hang in there Joanne! Things will get better 🙂

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    • Joanne says

      May 22, 2014 at 7:27 pm

      Thanks Jen!! Life has it’s ups and downs and we have to just keep moving forward. xoxo

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  5. Jacqueline says

    May 22, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    Love this post, it puts things in to perspective. I love you mom!

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    • Joanne says

      May 22, 2014 at 7:27 pm

      Thank you baby!! I love you. 🙂

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  6. Billy says

    May 22, 2014 at 2:18 pm

    What a great article Joanne. I totally agree. Moving past the negativity and focusing on the positive is the key to happiness. I apologize for anything I said that hurt your feelings. I love you. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Joanne says

      May 22, 2014 at 2:47 pm

      Yes, it really is the key to happiness. With recent events that have happened to us, it’s hard to do that…..hard but not impossible. xoxo

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