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Married 20 years today! [My #1 Tip For New Couples]

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Wow – my husband and I are 20 years married today!

20 Years Married!

When we got married, we had already known each other for six years and had gotten engaged the year before. We didn’t rush into getting married and really took a lot of time to get to know each other. We were pretty wild back then and we weren’t ready to get married right away.

My wedding day

Like any other couple, we’ve had some low moments and some amazing moments. Through it all, I think that kept us together was our love and the fact that we wanted to be together more than we wanted to be apart.

If I can give any advice to couples just starting out, it would be this – don’t show your spouse love and attention the way you want to be shown love and attention. They need it shown to them the way that speaks to their heart.

This was something Billy & I struggled with in the early years (and sometimes still do!). My husband is very affectionate and loves hugs and physical affection so when he’s upset or down about something that’s what he needs. When I’m upset, I want to talk it out and dissect it.

We got into quite a bit of conflict when we first got married because when Billy needed me for support, I would sit down and want to talk to him about it – thinking I was helping him! And he would want to hug me and physically console me when I needed support.

Of course, that didn’t work out well and we would feel like the other one wasn’t there for us, when in fact we were, but we were there for the other in the way that we wanted the other to be there for us, not the way that we needed.

Here are some photos from our wedding day, 20 years ago today!

Instead of a limo, we rented a 1957 pink Cadillac for the day.

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Our bridal party. My mother was my matron of honor. This photo was taken at Cannonball Park, right under the Verrazano Bridge. 🙂

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Me and my beautiful grandmother.

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Joanne Greco is a wife, mom to five and pet mama to four cats. On her family lifestyle blog, Life With Joanne she writes about Florida living, adoption, homeschooling, family fun and more.

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  1. Rebekah says

    June 16, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    Wow! Congratulations! I was excited when we hit our 5 year anniversary yesterday. lol Please tell me it gets easier the longer you go… please? We’ve definitely learned our “love languages” and how different we are from each other over the last few years. There’s something to be said about showing love the way THEY need to receive/experience it, vs. the way you want it.

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  2. Malia says

    June 11, 2014 at 9:42 am

    Great pictures!! Congrats on making it 20 years, with many more to come.

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  3. Ruth Zankich says

    June 9, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    I was following your pictures at the Hard Rock! Congrats on the 20th!

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  4. Amy Elizabeth says

    June 9, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    Congratulations on 20 years of marriage-that is quite an accomplishment! You are so right about figuring out how the other person communicates in their “love language” you need to show them love the way they need it-this is a huge key in a successful relationship! Cheers to 20 more for you!

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  5. brett says

    June 9, 2014 at 2:10 am

    happy anniversary! 20 years is a big milestone 🙂

    we just hit 10 last year

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  6. Nicole Brady says

    June 8, 2014 at 2:59 am

    Congratulations! We were married in 1993 and have seen too many couples married and divorced in that same time. I love hearing stories of romances that last.

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  7. Danielle says

    June 7, 2014 at 7:37 pm

    Congratulations! Twenty years is such a landmark – and an inspiration. It’s been only six years of marriage for us so far, and an incredible journey. Major highs, massive lows… and we are learning to work with them all ~*

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  8. katherine says

    June 6, 2014 at 11:42 pm

    Congrats! We’re going on our 8 year anniversary this year!

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