Good friendships are one of life’s treasures. Never take them for granted and treat them with love and respect. I’ve been fortunate to have some amazing friends in my life, online and offline.
Talking About Friendship
My longest friend is someone I met when I was 12. At the time, I was friends with her brother. We started hanging out when I was 14 (she was 17 at the time). We’re still friends all these years later and even though I moved from Brooklyn we are still close and keep in constant contact. Having a long time friend is amazing, because of the history and memories you share with them.
I’ve also been fortunate to become friends with people I’ve met online over the years. The awesomeness of it is never lost on me. When I lived in NYC, I ran an online community for hard rock fans and got together with members often, even inviting some from Norway and Denmark to my home. After moving to Florida I created an online adoption community and again, was lucky to meet and become friends with many of the women who were part of our circle.
I’ve also had my share of loss and hurt. One of my closest friendships ended several years ago and it’s still leaves a hole in my heart. This was someone who was a “sister” to me. What hurts me the most is the realization that our friendship was not as solid as I thought it was. I’m the type of friend who likes to hash things out and then move on, but being friends with someone who held onto resentments and didn’t communicate how they felt ended up severing our friendship. It still hurts and I imagine it always will.
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Thankyouu for making me realize that the real definition of friendship is those who are with me thru my ups and downs, and those who were with ne during the ride or die journey
I love how this article highlights the different aspects of friendship. It’s more than just having fun together, it’s about support and understanding.
Through my own experience, I’ve definitely learned that “real” true friendships are hard to come by and as you said, should never be taken for granted. I have very few friendships these days and even the ones that I thought would be longlasting, ended up drifting apart unfortunately. As I’ve grown older, the change in values has played a huge factor as well.
I can relate to what you’re saying. Just like how you experienced drifting apart from friendships you once thought would last, I too have felt the weight of how time and changing values affect relationships. I had a close friend back in Grade 7 to Grade 10, and we shared so many memories, but when I transferred schools, we slowly lost touch. It’s hard to accept, especially when you hold on to the belief that some friendships will withstand anything. But, as you said, growing older and experiencing different changes in life can shift priorities and values, and sometimes that causes even the strongest connections to fade.
I too have some friends that are still my “ride or die” girls from a very young age. I think everyone has had those friendships that you thought were amazing end in a fiery blaze. I even had that happen in a romantic relationship. On the surface, everything is awesome, but deep down you’re so fundamentally different that a relationship/friendship won’t last long. That’s why we value our true friends like they’re family.
I completely relate about losing friends. I tend to keep to myself because I’m really not very good at “friendship.” I either pick friends that want more than I can give or we just drift apart. The only friend I still have from growing up, I married 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s inspiring how you’ve maintained such strong friendships, even from a distance. You clearly value communication, and it can be tough when that effort isn’t reciprocated. Still, your dedication to building and preserving friendships is truly meaningful. Thanks for sharing, it serves as a reminder that, despite the challenges, friendships are worth holding onto.